For the second installment in my series of holiday tips I’m going to cover self-care.
Caring for yourself is a really important aspect of both physical & mental health.
Many of us are constantly putting others or our professional life ahead of our personal health & wellbeing. I can’t overstate just how important it is to take some time out & look after you.
As wonderful as the Christmas/New Year period is, it’s often stressful, busy & exhausting so it’s important to practice self-care before & during this period (& after!). Here are a few tips to get you started:
Number 1 is to put yourself first
This is so important & something almost everyone struggles with – especially if you are a natural care-giver. It might feel selfish, but you can’t give people your best help & care if you are not mentally & physically healthy – so it’s quite unselfish.
You are important & you need caring for too. It will help keep you focussed, positive & support your mental health.
A daily mantra
This can be the same each day, or different. The choice really is yours.
It might be something you say to yourself in the morning, the wallpaper on your phone or something you repeat whenever you feel you need it.
Whatever it is & whenever you use it is up to you. Just remember to keep it postive, inspiring & supportive. No negative self-talk here please.
Keep your goals realistic
I know I’ve said this before but I have to say it again because it’s so important. You must choose a goal you know you can succeed at. If you choose something that just doesn’t fit in with your lifestyle, is too big or too difficult, you are literally setting yourself up for failure.
I know this probably sounds like an odd one to include in a self-care post but keeping yourself feeling postive, motivated, effective & successful is great for your emotional wellbeing.
Avoid black & white thinking – get some grey in there!
There’s a saying that perfect is the enemy of good & this is so true.
You DO NOT need to perfect, good enough really is good enough. If you slip up with whatever it is you want to do, don’t stress. It’s not the end of the world.
If you don’t apply this type of thinking to other aspects of your life, why apply it here. For instance, missing 1 day of work you don’t say to yourself ” I’ve failed & will never succeed so what’s the point of even trying. For the same reasons, missing 1 day at the gym or over-eating 1 meal in a generally healthy lifestyle is absolutely not going to destroy your health so don’t let it.
I know this is easy to say but it’s something we all need to keep in mind. Trust me, if you do you’ll feel better for it.
Take some time out to relax
Be it a bath, scented candles, reading, yoga, meditation, gardening everyone needs to make time to relax.
Reducing stress is going to make everything (Holiday or otherwise) feel much less over-whelming & give you a fresh outlook.
Fit in some relaxation wherever you can & rest your mind & body.
Track your emotions
See if you can use your tracking to figure out the situations that negatively affect you most. If you develop some self-care strategies to help you face them, you’ll know what to do in the moment.
If you’re angry – try deep breathing, if you’re anxious – go for a walk or meditate, if you’re feeling sad – phone someone who makes you laugh or listen to your happy music playlist.
The possibilities are endless & knowing what you need to do beforehand will stop you doing something you regret when you’re in the danger-zone
3 good things
This a goodie & will help you emphasise the things that go well.
At the end of each day (& in the middle of the day if you like), write down 3 things that have gone well that day. No negativity, just positivity.
We tend to focus on things that don’t go well & forget about all the good stuff. This is designed to remind us that we are capable of great things each day. You can do this by hand, mentally or enter it into an app.
You’re awesome, make sure you know it.
Set intentions at the start of the day or the night before
This can include broad things like I’m going to focus on my relationships today or specific things like I’m going to cuddle up & read to my child today.
It doesn’t matter what it is, just set out a small & achievable list of the things you’d like to focus on for the day. This can create purpose & a calmer start to the day.
Keep a gratitude journal
Write down 3 things you are grateful for like job security, a healthy family or a beautiful day. Again this can help you maintain a positive mindset, keep you present & often point out all the wonderful things in life that we tend to take for granted.
These are just a few ideas, anything that takes care of you can be considered self-care. Like most things, you just need to find what works for you personally.
If you can’t fit in self-care habits daily, make sure you are at least doing them when you are feeling stressed, have low mood, are tired or just generally not feeling at your best.
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